I know, you're all wondering, why didn't she say she was getting married? I would have bought the happy couple something. (hee, hee, couldn't resist that opportunity!)
When I read this article, my gut response was, boy she's giving up a lot for a marriage that will probably end in divorce. Then she's gonna be kicking herself. Unless of course, the Japanese take lessons from British royalty and pretend like none of these rules ever existed in the first place.
In any relationship or marriage I suspect someone gives up something to make the relationship work. And what if that relationship ends in divorce or you're just no longer together, do you kick yourself for the rest of your life about it? How much is enough to give up for a relationship? When is it not enough? Is it possible to keep your life just as it is and still have a happy relationship? Is it wrong to decide that you want to be selfish and do what you want, when you want and not be fulfilled by another person...is that even possible?
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This is why I don't want to get into a marriage situation, which makes dating at this age a dangerous activity. Most women my age (late twenties) think that this is the time to get married, and don't want much to do with a guy who isn't looking for marriage.
Wow. I have been thinking a lot about compromise lately, which goes right along with what you posted. Weird.
I think there has to be compromise at some point in a relationship. But too often I get into situations where both sides feel they are compromising too much and the other isn't doing their part. But then, once you start worrying about what the other person is or isn't doing... ugh.
So, I'm single. Did I mention that? :-)
"I'm more amazed that she didn't know how to clean or do her own grocery shopping."
Have you dated any girls lately?! Domestic virtues are getting harder and harder to find.
Mike, you are in that age bracket. Give em a couple of years when they're divorced. They won't be as gung ho about getting married again.
Normal, this story is the real fairy tale!
Bone, did I mention I'm a mind reader? I've experienced the same as you. I think the older we get the less we are willing to comprimise. Which doesn't look good for either of our marital futures. And, that's not a bad thing either.
Lass and Bone, I've not dated any girls lately but I too would be amazed if a girl didn't know how to do that. God, my mother probably didn't either when she left home and married my dad at 23. But she learned. That's just pathetic. And Bone, you don't want any of that kind of girl anyway.
It is love, head over heels, can't keep your hands off of each other, finish each other's sentences, need to be in your arms to sleep...LOVE...come on...tell me you haven't felt willing to do just about anything, give up anything just to be with a lover forever? It's magic...I still believe!
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